What is The Fabulously Single Project?
When my dysfunctional relationship with my son’s father ended for the last time, I truly believed that my chance of ever experiencing a fairtytale happily ever after was over. And maybe it is. But what if I stop focusing on the fairytale and create a happily ever after right here and right now, where I’m my own knight in shining glitter covered armor?
On October 13th 2011, I decided to do just that.
That decision came in the wake of my post To Be Continued…
If you read through my blogvel Sex Lies and Bacon, you’d discover that while I’ve been a single girl for more than two years, my mind and vagina have not. From break-ups to make-ups and every sexual position in between, I’d been on a bit of a downward spiral. Anger, fear, and confusion ruled my life, though most never realized since I hid it well behind my veil of seduction and humor.
Pretending took me far, but it didn’t take me far enough.
The truth is I haven’t been myself since my separation over two years ago. The depression and loneliness that followed scared the shit out of me. So much so that I never fully worked through them. Instead I ran from them and the person I was. At the time I thought it was the right thing to do. I thought it was the only way I’d survive.
I’ve been surviving, but I haven’t been LIVING.
Why? Because I’ve been hiding, terrified to completely open my heart up to anyone since, including myself.
I’ve spent my entire dating life going from one emotionally unavailable bad boy to the next, never knowing why. It’s time to figure it out by examining who I really am over the next 52 weeks: as a mother, as a daughter, as a friend, and as a single woman.
By the end I hope to be more mentally, emotionally, and spiritually me.
One might compare The Fabulously Single Project to Elizabeth Gilbert’s journey in Eat, Pray, Love, but with less traveling and more single girl snark.
Unless someone wants to sponsor a trip for me to a far away place. I’m totally down for that too.
Over the next year I’ll be focusing on eleven areas of my life that I want to improve, spending *roughly* 4 weeks reflecting on each: Motherhood, Health/Fitness, Self, Career, Friendship, Family, Spirituality, Volunteer/Charity Work, Travel, Intellect, and Love.
Note: Self and Spirituality will get 8 weeks each because they deserve the extra attention
Hopefully my journey will serve as a single mom’s guide to loving herself.
As desperately as I’d like to fall in love with the right man, I know I never will unless I fall madly in love with myself.
That’s what this project is all about.
XOXO
Mely
Below is a timeline for the areas of my life I’ll be focusing on, week to week, during The Fabulously Single Project
Motherhood Weeks One through Four – 10/17/11-11/13/11
Health and Fitness Weeks Five through Eight – 11/14/11 – 12/11/11
Self* Weeks Nine through Sixteen 12/12/11 – 2/5/12
Career Weeks Seventeen through Twenty 2/6/12 – 3/4/12
Friendship Weeks Twenty-One through Twenty-Four 3/5/12 – 4/1/12
Family Weeks Twenty-Five through Twenty-Eight 4/2/12 – 4/29/12
Spirituality* Weeks Twenty-Nine through Thirty-Six 4/30/12 – 6/24/12
Travel Weeks Thirty-Seven through Forty 6/25/12 – 7/22/12
Volunteer/Charity Work Weeks Forty-One through Forty-Four 7/23/12 – 8/19/12
Intellect Weeks Forty-Five through Forty-Eight 8/20/12 – 9/16/12
Love Weeks Forty-Nine through Fifty-Two 9/17/12 – 10/14/12
